The Life Architect Vanda Harries
I was young when I became a single Mum. It was in the early stages of building my career and something I hadn’t planned for or imagined. There are those of us that dream of having a husband and a family one day, and those of us who don’t – I am one of the ones that didn’t. I was far more focussed on getting a great job, challenging myself and building an amazing career.
I love what I do, and I wanted to be successful at it.
So when I found out I was expecting, it was a setback. Not a show stopper, just a setback. I knew with every inch of my being that I would provide the very best for my daughter. There would be no second best for her, no doing without, no sympathy because she had one parent instead of two. It gave me the laser focus and determination I needed to make a success of my life.
Learning to balance my new life brought the guilt. The guilt that only a mother understands, especially a working Mum. Juggling meetings with school plays, business trips with doctors’ appointments and generally just trying to stay afloat. Luckily I had an excellent support structure, which certainly helped to take some of the pressure off. Today I’m thankful for a happy well-adjusted daughter who I’m extremely proud of.
You see ladies, we are far stronger, and more resourceful than we give ourselves credit for.
We dig deep and we do what we have to. However there comes a time in your life when the focus shifts, and you start to realise there are things you never did and still want to. A business you want to start and didn’t. A big golden goal you wanted to achieve and didn’t.